Friday, 31 December 2010

It's that time of the year again!!! (7 out of 12)

So here's my TO DO LIST ver. 2010:

1. Start life savings. Aim for £3000 by mid year!
2. Visit one more Schengen territory (ie. Spain, Belgium, Greece)
3. Exhaust all possibilities to renew visa in the UK (mummy wants me here!)

4. Visit Tere in Dubai and perhaps try to find opportunities there
5. Get my first designer bag...I was rooting for an LV or Gucci but all I was able to manage was a Longchamp...so ima trying again this year.
6. Get a new laptop - a Sony Vaio or, another Dell or a MacBook

7. Come home to attend my Lola's 80'th Birthday, Arlyn's wedding and spend Christmas 2010 at home sweet home.
8. Find my passion - careerwise
9. Watch a musical in West End
10. Watch a concert, show at the O2
11. See 2 or more places in the UK which I haven't visited yet; ie. Cornwall, York, Cambridge, Canterbury, Scotland, Ireland etc.
11. Take up a new hobby.
12. Be more health conscious and exercise!!!


7 OUT OF 12!!!!
WOW!!! I've actually done quite well in 2010!!! I had such a blast! A brilliant year, it was!
An hour and 20 minutes till 2011 takes over and I'm still pondering which realistic goals i should to set for myself this year. I mean setting goals seem to be working well with me. And it really is awesome to be working towards things that matter.

But first off, let me provide a quick run down of the last quarter of 2010 that went sooooo quickly for me.
Coming home to the Philippines - dropping by Kuala Lumpur on the way...visiting Rosey in Brunei, crossing the border to Miri, Malaysia. Here in the Philippines, I had Cebu and Boracay. My first diving lesson...starting on a new job in my old company...WOW! WHIRLWIND!

It seems that I haven't come up for air since August. May I just state, for whatever it's worth, that I LOVE my life. I am grateful to God for showering me with blessings, for my family, and for my friends. I CHOOSE positivity and happiness. I am fine.

I admit though, that I was left in tears a few times in 2010. Leaving UK was brutal, and my family leaving for the UK after a short holiday in Manila was just agony. But hey, that's life.

For 2011 I have new goals:
1. Visit 3 ASIAN Countries (booked HK- twice coming this year, and Beijing already)
2. Visit 2 local destinations
3. Start a small business - food, bazaars, on-line selling
4. BE AWAY on Holiday for my birthday (its the big three-0h this year!!!)
5. Get a pension plan
6. Get a CAR

Errrr, I feel really odd looking at the list. It seems that since most of them involve money, I'm going to have to make priorities. Hence, I might have to let some of them go or carve it out to suit my new lifestyle. I guess for 2011, what's important is to get settled...in my new life in Manila, in my job, and pursue my passions. I need to start setting the foundation for the future as I've always believed that preparation is KEY.

Truth is, travel is my passion. Starting a business would help brake the monotony of employment, being on holiday for my birthday will help me deal with my personal demons, getting a pension plan will help me start on the future, and getting a car would make life so much easier for me. They are all very important goals. So I need to be very, very, frugal to enable me to do them all...I need to focus all my energy on saving money and NOT spending on the not so important!. Ayt, seems like I've got my work cut out for me!!!

I'm ecstatic!!! Truly hopeful and excited for what's in store. I have a gut feel that 2011 will top 2010!!!
Let's drink to that!!!!
Cheers!

Friday, 27 August 2010

Cheerios Mate-y!

It's just gone past 11 tonight and I am sleepy and tired. But sleep is the last thing on my mind...i'll be leaving England in the morning and there's just too many things to think about. Especially because I don't know for sure when I would be coming back - months? years? who knows anymore?

I'm passing through another crossroad in my life and as much as I've known this day was gonna come for a while, and as much as I've emotionally prepared myself, I can't help but feel totally, and unequivocally, heart broken. I will miss everything and everyone and perhaps it's best to not elaborate on that. But yes, I am crying inside. I never meant to live here for good. But I had wanted to stay longer, and I had meant to leave on my own terms - especially since my parents and sister are staying here for a while. Realistically, it will always be a priority for me to come visit here, or grab any future opportunity that will bring me back here. However, who knows where life would lead me from here on?

My thoughts are a mess, my emotions are no better...I hope my few days in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia will help break my fall, clear my thoughts and get me on the other end of this turmoil. I wanna find my mojo again so to speak. I want to hit the ground running when I get to Manila. I need to find a job whether locally or outside again - as long as I find a really good opportunity, I'd be happy to go. I have personal goals - both simple and extravagant - and I really, really wish for these goals to be realised. But obviously, I need a proper income, a direction in life, a stable career.

Well, let's see, to help lighten my mood tonight allow me to put in writing a couple of these said goals:

1 - Celebrate my 30th birthday in 2011 in Japan
2 - Come back to England for the 2012 Olympics

So as you can see these are just my two most "high-end" goals...I call them goal because I fully intend on achieving them. So how do I do that? I need to earn good, stable money...and I have to do it fast. Okay...so you ask me, what if I need to chose between the two because I can't have both? Simple answer. I choose the Olympics - that being a event of 4 year intervals. I can always plan on Japan afterwards again, right?

Anyways, I wish good opportunities would open up for me. Because I really, really hope to apply all my new learnings now. I pray to heavens for guidance and strength cause I know that I've got my work cut out for me.

For now, I bid you farewell mate-y, >>>England, UK, Europe... cheerios!!!
Hope I'd be back before you know it! (or faster than you can utter goodbye!)
(By the way, I fully intend to follow your football so give me some real good matches, ayt?!)

And, Asia...here I come! ^_^

First stop, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.
Let's do this!

Thursday, 26 August 2010

LoVeRRR (David Villa)

(very short entry - FAN MODE: ON)

I've fallen in love!!!!
...with football!

HAHA!

So, I guess it's inevitable, having lived in the UK, specifically England...and having just witnessed the unbelievably rivetting FIFA World Cup 2010. But, I blame this person the most:


David Villa Sanchez of Spain **drools** ^_^

Oh Mah Gawwd....how gorgeous is he?!?!?

Anyways, I'm not one to focus on the physical really, but after witnessing his brilliance at the World Cup I'm just awestruck and done in for good!

I totally LOVE him!!!

And I now LURVE football so friggin much!

So I guess...I've got a new obsession. (while I wait in agony as Michael Phelps try to regain his rhythm for the upcoming 2012 Olympics)

My loverrr, (as I fondly call him) was awarded the 'Silver Shoe' with five goals in the 2010 World Cup Finals, 'Bronze Bal'l for his overall performance and selected to be part of the FIFA World Cup All-Star Team.

He's got a career total of 235 goals and international total of 43, only one goal short of Spain's record holder, Raul.

If after all these facts you still don't believe me about David Villa's fatal striker intincts, check out his World Cup 2010 goals here:







Anyways, he's just signed with FC Barcelona for £35Million (4 years with an option for a 5th year) and I am just super thrilled!!! He's just made his first goal at Camp Nou for Barca against AC Milan at the Joan Gamper held last night (Aug 25 2010):


Check out the goal here.

So there. I am bloody happy with yet another obsession ;p

Aaaaand, i'm now an all out Spain and FCBarcelona fan!!! xx

Over and Out.

Monday, 5 April 2010

Spring has Sprung in Spain!!!



Last March 24-April 1 had a blast doing 2 holidays (or a single holiday with 2 phases) first was to Glastonbury & Bath, Somerset with my youngest sis to visit my titas and then with Carol (in pic) to Costa Brava & Barcelona, Spain.

I loooooove, luv, lurve LOVE it!!!

Omygosh!!! i think I now work, play and live for and towards holidays...Despite the non-stop rains whilst we were in Somerset, it was just divine! I totally love spendin time with family! And shopping of course, it never goes out of season.

Oh, but I guess it goes without saying that the Spain holiday was just great! I love Spain, everything about it was a dream! The people were all nice, the scenery was splendid, the food was delicious and Barcelona, I must say is underrated! I mean, despite having very low expectations because; A. Spain was not my first choice, B. we were headed for the beach in a not so beach-friendly season (spring), C. my neverending visa dilemma D. budget constraints, it turned out to be a holiday that would be very hard to top!

We were blessed with great weather, and by great I mean, simply sunny, clear blue skies...it was 16 degrees and windy but we headed for the beach anyways. (albeit the layering and notice the leggings? =))

I'm very, very satisfied with this holiday, the preparation was minimal, but the place was divine...the satisfaction exceeded expectation. I am now a great believer in booking airport transfers AND, half-board accommodation for hotels! It just takes away a whole lot of worries and stress while you can devote more time enjoying and chillaxing! whoah!!! Soon, i'll be calling a brainstorming session for the next holiday!


Oh, and I didn't have a proper camera to the Spain trip because my water bottle spilt at London Victoria while waiting to go to Gatwick...this damanged my one and only used-to-be-trusty camera...too bad!!! (i was really worried that this happening was an omen that the holiday would be a horrid one...but, glad that it was actually too great for words!) ...Thank heavens for blackberry putting a 3.0mp on BB Tour! But i do need a new digicam...preferably an SLR.


**Just an off topic addendum...one more thing to tick off my list for 2010 I bought myself a new LV Neverfull bag in Damier leather and GM size!!! Wow! seems like im doing well on this list!


barelona football stadium

Thursday, 4 March 2010

Chasing Pavements

Right...I'm now well into 2010, the first quarter is well into it's last month, I've got 20 days till my next holiday, I've gotten well inducted into my job (and fell out of love with it already-more on that later)....and I do believe I've made the first part of my decision.

I'm leaving UK

:> The earliest is end of August and the latest is 1st of September. I'm going to inform my manager at work of my dilemma when I get back from holiday and I'll ask her to give her verdict on my situation as I can no longer do anything about it.

This is the gyst. Now, how did I come to it?

Well I weighed the possibilities of staying in the UK...and it's close to nil. The 2 possibilities were if I get a sponsor company to work (yeah, right) or re-apply as student. I looked into both possibilities to merit proper consideration. I did my research and dipped my feet in enough to realise that both are not very viable at present state. In reality, the overall climate of the UK towards non EU's is frosty! They just don't want to open their doors.

I realised that incurring the costs of applying or hiring an agency just to fight for something that I am not even happy to fight for is a lost cause. I cannot see myself staying in my current employment because, for one, the company don't do sponsorships. And secondly, I've fallen out of love with the people I work with already.

Sad to say...but, as much as I love working for the people I assist, and knowing that I can make a difference in their lives...the people I work with are doing a very good job in making me all jaded and disillusioned. Some are lazy, irresponsible dodgers, sarcastic, fussy, go-behind-your-back-fakers, and some are just downright vile. To be fair, they do have a heart of gold to be in the 'care' profession but, I think what they fail to realise is, the people they work with deserve to be treated properly too. It's all good of course, for them to treat the folks we assist with love and devotion...and I truly commend and I applaud that. But they are not self-sufficient islands and they must learn to value staff, too! No wonder, they have a very high turnover rate!!!

I would definitely feel bad leaving because I've come to love the ladies and gents I assist...but I definitely will not miss some of the staff! I must say thought that I owe them this decision. They helped me realise this isn't worth it...in the end, when I weigh what I have to live with on a daily basis and the effort I must put in and the risk I have to take to be living in that kind of daily life...it just doesn't add up.

So I've decided to leave. Depending to my talk to Diane in April, I might leave by July or even earlier...I'm currently considering lowering my working hours on the run up to July so I can jumpstart the process of getting myself ready to leave ie. claiming tax refunds, closing bank accounts, making sure I will leave without any trouble running after me....


I say that I've made the first part of my decision because I still am considering a few destinations to try my luck in...Dubai, Brunei and Canada...

The prospect of Canada is becoming bleaker everyday because I've made contact and registered to a company who seem to avoiding me now that I've made a deposit!!! It's £100 so it's not that bad a loss, but if nothing comes out of it by next week I will make sure that they won't be paid the rest of their service charge! After all, I am paying for a service - which I'm not getting. So, I will definitely, definitely make sure they won't get anymore money out of me!

Anyways...if I don't end up in Canada, then I don't end up in Canada. It's as simple as that. It might be too cold over there for me anyways....


I could still go to Dubai. I might apply for a 2-months visa and look for work there. But, quite honestly, one of the biggest put off about the place is my bestfriend herself. Why? Well, because she's not encouraging me to go there at all. Everytime I bring up the topic, she always tells me that I should think about it and prepare myself...because she don't want me to feel like she's pressuring me to come there!!! Well, she'd doing the opposite, isn't she?!? She's kinda making me feel that she doesn't really want me there, that she thinks I can't handle the lifestyle there...and that I might not make it there. I'm sure that she doesn't mean for me to feel that she's thinking these stuff...but it's just what I can gather about her attitude about this whole thing.

So, it's either she really wants me there, and just don't want me to blame her if things don't work out, or...she's just too preoccupied with her own life's drama she really can't decipher the gravity of mine. Anyways, I don't blame her...she's my oldest friend, and quite honestly, I get her.

I'm also considering Brunei. Another friend based there right now has invited me. She's very, very keen and I'm really warming up to the idea. It's a very quiet Muslim country with British values, I don't need a visa for a 14day visit, and it's very close to my home country. It's also not a very popular destination for jobhunters like me...so I do believe my chances are good! So yeah, Brunei is totally in my radar now. I'm considering even going there first, coming home and if nothing comes from it, try Dubai as a last option. My bestfriend might not appreciate that Dubai is my last option, but I don't particularly feel warm about the idea since she's not painting me a picture of the whole thing, so it's quite difficult for me to imagine myself actually being there.


So for now, Ima just gonna endure crap so I can save up enough money, and enjoy my last few months in the UK. I'm no longer feeling much pull to stay here. I've spoken to my Mum and she fully gets me. She knows that if it comes to it, I can always come back when the ridiculous rules have lightened up. But for now, the doors of the UK is closing on me...and I ain't gonna force the issue. What I would like to have for my last few months is, less drama, less baggage, and lots of fun and first time experiences.

I'm not going to take flak at work. I'm gonna work hard but will try not to let the bitchin' affect me...I mean, what's the point? I'd be gone in a few months... Sometimes, when I think about it, if I didn't have to leave, I don't know how long I'd be able to stay there. I do appreciate that this job is teaching me a lot of things, and helping me earn some much needed moolah to fuel my ends...but that's about it for now. I won't strain myself to accommodate things that I don't want to accommodate...and, I won't apologise for prioritising myself!!!

I guess, I must thank them that they are teaching me to stand up for myself, protect myself from abuse and realise that I can, in fact, say 'NO'. I don't need to force myself to do things to help other people if it will mean, sacrifice and agony for me. I don't owe them anything. Kindness and niceties has it's limits, people. I mean, maybe I've been a pushover but it sure didn't get me anywhere....so, I'm done with that!

Now, of course...a part of me is also considering just coming back to the Philippines. I'm thinking up possibilities for small businesses that I could start...or relevant and worthwhile things that I can get into while I consider my options there.

As of now, I'm still very much up for grabs! Who knows, I might still end up staying in the UK!!! But, I'd only do this one if I get a job sponsorship! (Student visa is definitely out of the table)

Hence, I entitled this entry as 'Chasing Pavements' precisely because of the first two lines of the song. Here's the lyrics anyways:


I've made up my mind, don't need to think it over
If I'm wrong I am right, don't need to look no further
This ain't lust, I know this is love

But if I tell the world, I'll never say enough
'Cause it was not said to you
And that's exactly what I need to do if I'd end up with you

Should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements
Even if it leads nowhere?
Or would it be a waste even if I knew my place
Should I leave it there?
Should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements
Even if it leads nowhere?

I build myself up and fly around in circles
Wait then as my heart drops and my back begins to tingle
Finally could this be it?

Should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements
Even if it leads nowhere?
Or would it be a waste even if I knew my place
Should I leave it there?
Should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements
Even if it leads nowhere?

Should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements
Even if it leads nowhere?
Or would it be a waste even if I knew my place
Should I leave it there?
Should I give up or should I just keep on chasing pavements
Should I just keep on chasing pavements?

Should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements
Even if it leads nowhere?
Or would it be a waste even if I knew my place
Should I leave it there?
Should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements
Even if it leads nowhere?


I'm very much aware of it's person reference, but I still can't help but think that it's relatable to my situation.
xx

Wednesday, 27 January 2010

end of january 2010 thoughts

i am at a very important crossroads. what do i do?

im not sure if staying in the UK is what i want to do anymore when September comes. i mean, i haven't got that warm feeling about the idea anymore. my current job is something i do with my eyes closed - i just really need the money, and i like assisting people who need my help but even with just over a month in there, i've seen loads of loopholes that i wish they could fix! i won't go into the boring details because that's crap but i'm pretty sure it's not the kind of place i want to stay in for long if this goes on. my back and shoulders hurt, parts of my legs turned blue from bumps, arms with 'battle' marks. it's really very physical and tiring...i honestly don't know how long i will last!

so if the job front isn't all that great, the only other consideration is the way it is at home. i love my mum to pieces...as in for her, the world, my life...but i can't be dependent forever. i came here to try to bond with my father and so we can get to know each other but the truth is, this is how it is. and it can't be changed. i ain't getting any younger and as much as i want to be close by, well i can't they've got their future laid out because they are going to stay in the UK permanently, but for me, it's different.

when i argue with my father sometimes, i ask myself why, why is this happening? i try to be as patient as i can but it runs dry at times too. it can't be helped.

if truth be told, a part of me wants to leave the UK too. the only consideration i've got is my mum and the slight chance that my future is actually here hiding somewhere...what shall i do?

i made contact with a college regarding the possibility of doing a course by Sept so i can have a new visa but to be honest, it's not going great. it's either i need £4500 and work part time, (yeah, right! how will i afford that?!) or do a cheaper NVQ course which will tie me down to my current job and make me indebted to them. so really, the prospect seems bleak to me. i don't wanna spend money i earned hard to pay a tuition and i don't want to stay long in this job.

this is my recession job. i really wish to go back into the corporate world if i can. i spoke with theresa about the possibility of finding work in dubai. so im also looking to go there. it's just difficult with all the things running around my head, and trying to make a decisison and making a schedule for this year. i guess i just need to go through it one day day at a time with my current work. but really, that part that wants to leave the UK is getting bigger everyday, and this only means that i need to pursue other options quick!

oh by the way, one of my 2010 to do's had been accomplished as i am using my new sony vaio to write this blog entry =) and i got myself a blackberry which i really fell in love with!!! as in totally! i wish i discovered it sooner!!!

Thursday, 24 December 2009

Thoughts on a Christmas Eve

(Caveat: really loooooong post, combi of Christmas and New Year)

What am I doing posting a blog the night before Christmas?!?

Beats me!!! All I know is this is my third one in the UK and I'm reminiscing the 'golden days' and am a tad bit wistful. So, to keep my homesickness and sadness at bay I had some of my favourite things: 2 glasses of white wine, lots of cheese (roquefort and reggiano parmeggiano), pitted olives, and a full roast dinner (English style).

Christmas is good, I have my parents and one of my sisters right here. But you know what? A part of me is already thinking to Christmas 2010, for which I am planning on being home in Manila.

But let's not get ahead of ourselves, shall we?! This blog post is a look back to what I have accomplished from the list I had set out just before new year last year. (Or of what I have failed to do?)

So here's my 2009 to do list once again, just one look is making me wince!!!.

#5. By the end of 2009 I should have at least £3000 in savings.
#4. I will celebrate my 1st year anniversary in my current job.
#3.Visit Theresa in DUBAI
#2. See the view from the top of Eiffel Tower.
#1. I will help Hydz come visit.

Right. I have failed to do all of it!!!. Do let me explain though, numbers 5 and 4 are co-dependent. Unfortunately, I was made redundant right smack in the middle of the year! I wasn't able to visit Tere in Dubai because of the financial constraints, and Hydz apparently has got totally different plans that does not include coming to England as a priority.


I did go to the City of Love, Paris and had the best birthday of my adult life.
I went to Euro Disney and went to all the key tourist spots.

Here's my pic outside the iconic Louvre Museum -->

I and my friend, Carol decided not to go to the top of the Eiffel Tower because when we got there, we saw how you either have to get up by climbing the innumerable flights of stairs or by weird looking elevators and it was way too spooky for two altophobiacs to attempt!

Also, we took one look at the looooooong zig-zagging lines and we knew that even without the climb to the top of Eiffel, our 'Paris-ian' experience was already complete. (I did make a blog entry dedicated to that, please see post)




Then, despite my unemployment, for almost 5 months, (i was hired one time but decided not to continue due to the nature of the job, and I did some temp work throughout...but they are not real active employment in my opinion, just a ways to get some cash into the wallet) I was able to visit Paris' twin, the Eternal City, Roma in Italia and of course, the Vatican City.


Me at the Colosseum


with Tita Beng at St Peter's Square, Vatican City

Now Rome, Rome was something else, very different from my Paris trip. It was Tita Beng's birthday and we went with Tita Lorie. Somehow the experience was out of this world. We did all the tourist-y stuff and got fresh feet calluses for it, attended the Papal Audience and even met and had dinner with the current Philippine Ambassador to the Vatican City, Amb. Mercy Tuason.

I loved the experience and the trip to pieces albeit the dreadful plane ride and the ridiculously expensive mobile phone bill I incurred during it (almost £500!!!).


Oh and this year, I rediscovered e-bay and I bought myself a new mobile phone; a Nokia N97 which is a smartphone for which I don't seem to be smart enough to manage =)


I also started on a new job 2 weeks before the year ended. (Had the offer way back in mid October, but had to wait for all the paperwork to be completed)

Such a Christmas gift from heavens, don't you think?

So for 2009. I believe nothing has been lost and yet a lot has been gained. Met new people, nourished old links, strengthened familial bonds & friendships, and I did a lot of soul searching, contemplating and considering.


I may not have saved £3000, but I now have the capacity to start on that long overdue life savings. Besides, what is 2010 if not to start anew on old goals, as well as make some new ones?!

So here's my TO DO LIST ver. 2010:

1. Start life savings. Aim for £3000 by mid year!
2. Visit one more Schengen territory (ie. Spain, Belgium, Greece)
3. Exhaust all possibilities to renew visa in the UK (mummy wants me here!)
4. Visit Tere in Dubai and perhaps try to find opportunities there
5. Get my first designer bag...I was rooting for an LV or Gucci but all I was able to manage was a Longchamp...so ima trying again this year.
6. Get a new laptop - a Sony Vaio or, another Dell or a MacBook
7. Come home to attend my Lola's 80'th Birthday, Arlyn's wedding and spend Christmas 2010 at home sweet home.
8. Find my passion - careerwise
9. Watch a musical in West End
10. Watch a concert, show at the O2
11. See 2 or more places in the UK which I haven't visited yet; ie. Cornwall, York, Cambridge, Canterbury, Scotland, Ireland etc.
11. Take up a new hobby.
12. Be more health conscious and exercise!!!

Okay, I've got a longer list this year. My aims are quite tall order too. I hope to hit these targets, all of it if I can manage ...but I wont punish myself if I don't.

The whole point is to give myself some sort of direction, some very realistic goals that I can look forward to that aim to add more meaning, excitement and substance to my life.


I am very thankful for the year 2009, for all it is and for all that it isn't, the ups and downs it brought me, and the new plots that emerged.

I do not expect 2010 to be perfect, but I know for sure it will be better. I am very excited for everything that's in store not only for myself but for everyone.

Right. Now I'm off to get on with some of my new Christmas traditions, ima watching Love Actually and other Christmas flicks!!! But before that, just one more line:

Here's to a prosperous and blessed 2010 to all of us!

Sunday, 20 September 2009

28 going on???

Im like 8 weeks into my life's 28th year and try as I may, I cannot marry some thoughts I had when I was young - I thought that by 28 years old I'd be settled down with a husband and child or at least on the verge of doing so. Instead, I am as far away from it as one can imagine. No, don't get me wrong as I'm not complaining because what makes me really far from that is me and myself alone. I think I am undergoing a 'repellant' stage when it comes to "couple-dom". Seriously, if someone had told me when I was a teenager that one day I would just pooof, lose interest in the whole idea altogether, I would just say 'get out!' I haven't exactly sworn it off for life, I still massively enjoy rom-coms (in all its forms - books, tv, movies, music etc) and I applaud real people who have found it and stuck to it. It makes me happy to have heard a successful love story because it gives me something to hold on to - that these things, they come around. It's just that at this very moment, i'm not ready for it.

I consider this phase I am currently at to be very challenging - trying to find my way in a foreign place and trying to make out what to do next it's really daunting to say the least. I have lost my job just before I turned 28, and although a part of me had already accepted that there's a bigger chance of leaving UK by the end of my current residence permit, I still need to try to make ends meet while I'm here. Besides, I figured, if my numbers here are numbered I wouldn't fancy spending it holed up in my bedroom - I would want to make a blast and just experience everything!!!

I have a lot of decisions to make because I have a number of choices available to consider (as discussed in this blog earlier) but really, I look at myself and I still see the old me, the one who graduated from college, the girl who endured the whole graveyard lifestyle because it was no less than fab and fun, the girl who had nursed the longest most pathetic infatuation in AB Legal Management history. Ok, I am doing a random thing here so just humour me and go along with it. Because, baby, this is me:

- I am the only person I know who's escalator-phobic -- i don't even know the correct medical term and as much as I hang out in malls like a second home, escalators baffle me and freak me out, less now than before but still is

- I heart Michael Phelps, Chace Crawford, Ed Westwick, & Neil Patrick Harris for very different reasons

- Ima pop culture victim

-I would love to be Leighton Meester, Blake Lively, Cheryl Cole or Anne Curtis

- I am a loyalist - very loyal to authors (if I like their writing style I get all their books), brands, etc

- Apparently I cannot hold down a job because I still haven't found my passion (but I am working on it - I swear)

- I have zero interest in politics but I worry about my country's future

- I believe that laughter is the best medicine

- I enjoy watching Hannah Montana & How I Met Your Mother amongst others

- I haven't had a facial for 2 years now

- My faith is important to me

- I've tried joining a dating site but got nothing much off it (it was actually very off-putting)

- I resent some of my wrong turns but would not want to go back to try to change it. I appreciate I had reasons for why I did things a certain way or why I chose one over the other option and looking back, I am glad that I learned from my mistakes

- Im undecided about things like love at first sight, serendipity and destiny

- I hope to visit as many places as I can during my lifetime

- I want to live in a place other than my birth country during my working years

- I miss having my friends around. As much as I value being with my family (my mum especially) it feels odd not having my friends around - it still kinda feels lonely despite my efforts

- I like to sing, but I'm not sure I'd have the guts to do it in front of people again like in the karaoke bar

- I don't drink beer anymore, there's been very few temptation and it's very easy to stop because it tastes shit. I have the occassional glass of wine and that's it.

- I am working on my patience & positive re-inforcement

- I've gained a LOT of weight but I don't really care so much right now

- I'd like to have more control over my diet but I find that it's really hard to do when you're still living with your parents and you aren't earning enough

- I dress comfortably

- I hate clutter

- I try to stay away from drama now

- I can be a loner

- I am a chocolate addict and can live on comfort food and junk food for weeks

- I don't think I can survive anymore without a good internet connection and a trusty laptop

- I'd like a blackberry & and LV bag for Christmas (the bag is like 2 years running now, almost bought it last year but thought the better of it)

- I'm a seasonal insomniac - it attacks when I least want it to

- I have autumn hay fever attacks which can be severe

- My favourite season is Spring

- My recent Christmasses had been quite sad especially the last two - I used to adore Christmasses while I was younger

- I have been dealing with gastric ulcer since I was 2nd year HS

- I've had my first minor surgery just this year - It was horrible and I hope I never ever get this grey's anatomy moment again

- A dog person

- I like babies but is terrified to hold them as they are soooo fragile

- I don't think I'm very good with children

- I used to be very friendly and warm but I think I've gone lukewarm or tepid

- I've turned really jaded and I no longer trust people as easily as before

- I think I'm inconspicuous

- I used to dislike my birthdays until Paris 2009

- I have a short attention span, I can easily distract myself

- I enjoy multi-tasking

- I am a homebody

- I like living in busy cities

- I can be obsessive-compulsive or just simply obsessive

- I am career orientated

- I'd like a comfortable and prosperous life for my family

Oh, and I need to be heading to bed now. =)

Sunday, 16 August 2009

At a Crossroads (yet again)

(CAVEAT: very long post)

I've known for quite a while how life is a journey, and that there are bumpy roads, crossroads; it involves losing our way, finding our way back, slowing down and stepping on it like there's no tomorrow.


Mine seemed to have spiralled early this year and halted this July. With the trip to Paris for my 28th birthday as the peak, I suddenly found myself having to rethink everything. As in EVERYTHING. The options I have, and the possibilities for the future. All is as uncertain as it can get. Losing my job may be bad, but it also is a turning point. Here I am once again. I need to set my priorities straight and ask myself: What is it really, that I would give anything (and everything) to have? What is it that I am willing to sacrifice and work pretty damn hard to get to?

People around me from all parts of the world have different takes on my options - which is a great thing, I see a lot of perspectives that way. But I know at the end of the day, it is my own decision to make, and mine alone. The reason for my troubles is not something I can control. Quite simply, my Visa that allows me to work full time in the UK is expiring by September 2010, a year and a bit from this day. (and mind you, the system in the UK is no piece of cake) A year can be both a long time and a short time coming depending on perspective. Right now, I see it as an opportunity. However, as early as now, I need to define which road to take. Otherwise, I risk not having a road to journey on at all. Right this instant, this much is clear: I need to make a choice. Because I need to start preparing myself.

Here are the options I have:
1. Take up MBA in the UK
2. Take up culinary in Canada
3. Take up culinary classes in the Philippines
4. Work full time in UAE.

All of my choices involves countries. 3 out of 4 involves studying. All will involve life altering changes and all are likely to be career defining. No option is perfect - there are PRO's and CON's for each one. All of them involves hard work, cunning determination and steadfast passion. I have to choose well to ensure that I have the right attitude for whatever decision I end up choosing to pursue.

So, what's important NOW? Landing a job that will allow me to save ridiculous amounts of money for each of the last 12 months I got. I'm not forgeting for a minute that each of my options require money. Money is always an issue to someone like me, who, while not having to take to the streets for food, does not also have the luxury of that much options because of scarce resources. I've learned to deal and live with it. And most of the time it doesn't really bother me anymore. That's the way I've known it to be.

However, this time around I know, I NEED to save money because it will all depend on it. And then there comes the thinking that IF I do manage to save my target amount, is it really going to be worth it to spend it on something with no guarantee? I am not living an illusion. Nothing in this world has the luxury of having guarantees. Everything is but temporary and therefore, uncertain. I get that as much. But I don't want to live my life worrying about those that I cannot control. Instead, I want to focus on certain factors that I actually CAN CONTROL.

All options if ultimately chosen, will involve a great leap of faith. And if that is not enough of a scare, knowing that there will be no turning back sure is. I have to stay on that road for a while to see if it will work out. My fear right now is if I have the character, strength and the determination to see it through the very end. (the very end meaning the success). Needless to say, I am terrified. Terrified of making the wrong decision and more terrified of the prospect of falling short of the kind of person I need to be to succeed.

Also, there's this feeling that this is somehow a one last shot. I don't know entirely of what. At life? I sure hope not. I just feel a nagging intense pressure as well as a powerful need to take control of where I am headed. I also want to prove that I can power through all of these. I feel I can if I really want it bad enough. I can make something of myself - It is NEVER TOO LATE. Someone important to me said I am not getting any younger and another important person said I need to start building something in one place or else nothing will come out of me. I don't think I am running out of time. But I get their point. I get that I might end up having a family of my own and I might end up ultimately giving up my dream to take on another, or rather live by my realities.

The good thing is, I am single right now. And yes, at this instant, I appreciate the blessing of being single. Because I know that coupledom takes such hard work. Right now I mostly consider just myself and where I want and need to go - makes it less complicated than it would be if I had another person I want to be with to consider. Yet, this brings a scare too. What if I meet someone along the way, what would that mean for my journey? Would that mean that I would have to change routes to fit in another person? I don't really know if I am open minded enough for that. And that is my problem. I guess I am very self-focused right now. It's lucky that I am single.

I've been losing lots of sleep at night thinking, imagining and visualising possibilities. To be honest, one of the options always comes out clearer in my thoughts than the rest. And yet, I am not ready to admit I've chosen it. I want to keep my options open until the very time I am absolutely on the edge to make a decision.

So for now these are what's important:
1. Find a job that will allow me to save up enough
2. Take yet another IELTS exam
3. Get rid of my lazyness
4. Have an open mind
5. Believe I can do it

I have been trying to find a job since I learned I might lose my last one. But the marketplace for jobs is not in great shape at the moment. Most of the world is in the middle of recession. Tough times abound everywhere. I get that. I'm not even choosing what sort of job to go for. As long as I feel I can do it, I go for it. But ofcourse, it all depends on whether or not I will even get a call back. There's too many people out of employment; the highest percentage the British economy have seen in ages. And as if that's not enough to work against, I also have a 1 year Visa on me, making my options lesser than the ideal. But hey, I am not stopping at anything. I believe that this recession and my personal hardship can still be turned into an opportunity. So I am still at it giving every open window my best shot.

I have also contacted an exam centre for my IELTS. I want to get it over with as quickly as I can just so I can get it out of the way. I haven't heard from them yet, but I hope to finalise my test date soon. Because of course, I need to review. I need to try to get the highest possible score. I may not know many things, but this as much I know: Whatever I decide to do, I have got to try to be my very best. I cannot anymore fade into middle ground. I'm not only referring to my IELTS exam. I will also try to give it my all if I end up deciding to take up my MBA or attend the culinary class in Canada or back home in the Philippines. Also, I'd be the best employee if I decide to take up work in UAE.

I need to motivate myself, and that I can easily do. The huge challenge is staying motivated, to keep myself passionate and believing in my goal and myself. I know this because distractions happen all the time. Change happens at on its whim and there's just too much I cannot control. It is difficult to focus on your journey when you pass by lit corners and intriguing signs, and road blocks along the way. This is why maybe, I have to have a clear goal in mind. To define it to a Tee, and perhaps find the best way to get there. I have to draft a map and try to make exact computations of time, factoring in my age and any possible distractions along the way. Deal with the 'what if's' this early which will hopefully help prepare me when they do happen. I can only prepare myself too much. Also, there's too much I cannot foresee, and yet, that's also what makes it more exciting.

For now, I need to learn how to focus. To make sure each day is lived towards my goal inspite that sometimes everyday life feels so mundane, so ordinary and so uneventful. I cannot forget for a minute that each day matters. Every nick of time counts. Focus on the right things, eliminate those that are not useful.

I have a decision I will soon have to make. But first things first. How do I get from here to there?

Friday, 7 August 2009

Defeat spurs Michael Phelps to even greater feats

(Michael Phelps, left, outsprints Serbia's Milorad Cavic to win the men's 100m butterfly final at the Swimming World Championships. Photograph: Mark J Terrill/AP)

Posted by
Andy Bull Wednesday 5 August 2009 16.34 BST

Defeat was the best thing that could have happened to Michael Phelps. And Phelps losing was the best thing that could have happened to the World Championships in Rome. Paul Biedermann's victory in the 200m freestyle changed the course of the entire week. It set the championships alight. And Phelps's response made for one of the most compelling pieces of sport I have ever been lucky enough to see. Watching him swim over the next five days was a privilege.

I've had a lingering headache since I saw him beat Milorad Cavic in the 100m butterfly on Saturday. My mind has been boggled ever since.

To start with, we have to go back 12 days. When Phelps arrived he felt bigger than his sport. No man is bigger than the team? Phelps was bigger than his entire profession. He defines the coverage, and transcends the passionate but parochial swimming community. He had his own press conference. Hundreds of people came. Beforehand the United States team scheduled a 30-minute conference with Ryan Lochte, Dara Torres and Aaron Peirsol. They have 25 Olympic medals between them, and they left 15 minutes early because no one had any questions. They were all there for Phelps.

When Phelps came to Rome he was 10 months down from the mountaintop. Six of those had been spent on one of the hardest-earned holidays imaginable. He could have skipped this meeting – it's not uncommon after an Olympic year. Ian Thorpe sat out Montreal 2005 after winning four medals in Athens. As Britain's Rebecca Adlington said last Sunday: "There's nothing like the Olympics, and I guess there has been a bit of a comedown."

His main reason for coming was, he said, that his mum "really wanted to see Rome. I told her I'd just fly her out here, but she said she wanted to see me swim here too".

After eight golds, that is slender motivation indeed.

In 2008 I was foolish enough to doubt Phelps. Or rather, doubt his ambitions. I had too much respect for the records. Eight golds in one Games looked impossible. He may as well have been trying to clear out the Augean Stables.

People who have not watched enough swimming will say that there are "too many events" and "too many distances". They will suggest that Phelps's wins are easier to come by than those in other sports. Yet each stroke is as different as the jumps are from the sprints in athletics, and each distance he competes at only increases the number of opponents he has to beat.

I wasn't the only doubter. Ian Thorpe was another. "I don't think he will do it, but I'd love to see it," he said. "There's a thing called competition. It won't just be one athlete that is competing." Thorpe was exactly right about that. Swimming is brutally competitive. Where he went wrong was in thinking that the ferocity of the competition would stop Phelps rather than spur him on.

Phelps wants to know he can be beaten. He thrives on that feeling. He has said as much over and over again: "I love doubters. I love all doubters. I welcome all comments. I love my competitors. The faster they swim, the quicker I go."

There are innumerable reasons why Phelps is the sportsman he is, but few define him as much as his ability to use his opponents' success to inspire him to greater achievements. "Bring it" is one of his watchwords. When it matters he "brings it" like no one else in sport.

Before Rome, it seemed he had forgotten what it meant to lose. He had not come second in a major final in four years. He had lain waste to his rivals in Beijing. He almost seemed bored because there was nothing left to conquer. Very few people genuinely thought Phelps might lose. And while he may not admit it, I'll wager he did not think it either.

Last Monday I stood in the mixed zone listening to Phelps just after he had climbed out of the pool after winning his 200m semi-final. He turned away while talking to watch Biedermann's semi-final on a nearby TV screen. As he watched the German break his championship record, Phelps's face contorted into both a sneer and a frown. I saw disbelief, scorn, and shock.

The next night, of course, Phelps lost the gold to Biedermann.

The 200m free has always been a tough race for Phelps. In his autobiography, No Limits, Phelps tells a story from when he was 12. "A kid from Delaware beat me in a 200m freestyle race. This would have been just the sort of thing that typically would have sparked a first-class goggles-throwing tantrum. Instead I felt the burn inside, then let the emotion carry me through my next swims. At that meet, I had five more events. I won all five."

After he lost to Biedermann, he had four more events. He won all four.

It was also the 200m free that cost him his shot at seven golds in Athens, when he was beaten into bronze by Thorpe and Pieter van den Hoogenband.

"That loss," he has said since, "has to be looked at as a – maybe the – defining race of my career. I stepped up and raced the best. I found out I was good, but not good enough. I had work to do."

But Biedermann was no Thorpe. Some people thought, and some headlines suggested, that Phelps's response to the defeat was to threaten to quit swimming until Fina banned the new polyurethane swimsuits. It wasn't. That was the reaction of Bob Bowman, Phelps's long-serving coach. "Bob decides my schedules," was all Phelps said.

Phelps's reaction was not apparent until the next night, when he obliterated the field in the 200m butterfly, broke his own world record and took gold. He had remembered what it was like to lose. He did not seem bigger than swimming any more. It was a champion's reaction. By his own standards Phelps was not in the best racing shape. He swam 9,000 miles in the four years before Beijing. Here he had been training for only three months.

On top of which Bowman's comments meant that in the 200m final Phelps was perceived as being in a race against suits as well as swimmers. Like Adlington, Phelps was handicapped by his Speedo sponsorship, and his loyalty to its LZR suit. Only five of the championship's 43 world records fell to swimmers wearing LZRs. The psychological impact of that hindered Adlington badly, as the Great Britain head coach, Dennis Pursley, admitted afterwards. But it only made Phelps stronger.

He said afterwards that he had planned to use an LZR bodysuit for that race, but had mistakenly picked up one that was too worn-in. Bowman told him simply to swim in jammers – knee-length trunks.

"But I haven't shaved my chest," Phelps said.

"Doesn't matter," Bowman replied.

His next event, though, the 100m butterfly, was about more than the suits. It was also about Cavic.

The 25-year-old swims for Serbia, but grew up in America and spent three years studying at Berkley. Cavic is the man who said in Beijing that he "would love to be the guy who is remembered for stopping Phelps winning all eight" and then announced that he was "the only guy at the Olympics who had a real shot at beating Phelps one-on-one".

In Beijing he came within a single hundredth of a second of doing that, a margin so small as to be almost beyond comprehension. He was so close, in fact, that the referee had to use a video review shot at 10,000 frames per second to confirm it.

Cavic is still not convinced. "I did touch the wall first," he said during his first press conference of the world championships. Then, after the heats, he indulged in a little more eloquent trash-talking. "I know Phelps is making a lot of money from Speedo. It's loyalty. But throughout all my experiences, I've learned this – free will is a gift with a price tag, and whatever you choose to do you're going to pay, but how much you're going to pay is really dependent on you." That was before he had offered to buy Phelps a new suit.

As those quotes suggest, Cavic's public persona is charming and intriguing in a way that Phelps never has been or will be. Phelps can be hard to like. He is irksomely unabashed in his patriotism and, unsurprisingly given what he has had to do to get were he is, can seem a little narrow-minded. In No Limits he reveals he suffered culture shock in Beijing: "It was one of those cultural moments. There was no brown sugar for the oatmeal. I used white sugar. No excuses."

He can also be as truculent as a teenager. After collecting his gold for the 200m butterfly, Phelps didn't bother turning up for the mandatory post-ceremony press conference. Instead he climbed into the diving pool and floated about on his back, rolling around in the water like a holidaymaker in the sea.

He did that for 25 minutes, not warming down – his race had been an hour earlier – but lolling about. Two hundred journalists were going nuts, and a legion of humiliated Fina officials were running about flapping. No one would ask Phelps to get out of the pool. They even put Federica Pellegrini's press conference back.

I wondered if he was making a point to Fina, or his fellow competitors, but seeing his obvious embarrassment at what he had done afterwards, I decided he simply preferred to be in the water than in the room answering the questions. When he did come in, he watched the swimming on TV while he spoke.

"The pool," Phelps has said, "is a safe haven. Two walls at either end, lane lines on either side, and a black stripe on the bottom for direction."

Back in that initial press conference he was asked about his relationship with Bowman. "Things haven't changed between me and Bob," he said. "He still treats me like I'm a 15-year-old."

"That's because," Bowman shot straight back, "you still act like a 15-year-old."

After Athens 2004 there was the drink-driving arrest, and this year there was the pot smoking. The only man in history to have won 14 Olympic gold medals did not know how to use a washing machine until he was 20. He flooded his kitchen after putting hand soap in the detergent draw. He got so confused when his smoke alarm started beeping that he rang Bowman to ask what to do.

"Have you changed the batteries?"

"You mean I have to do that?"

Phelps is a far cry from the intelligent, articulate Cavic.

And yet none of this matters a damn. Just as Phelps had said he would, Cavic destroyed him over the first 50m of the final. Phelps turned in fourth place, down near Cavic's hips. And then Phelps attacked. He attacked as hard as he could. Butterfly was a poor description for this. It was more pterodactyl. Phelps thundered through the water like some ancient beast, his 6ft 7in span arms swooping up out of the water and clawing him forward.

That night Cavic, in his Arena X-Glide swimsuit, became the second man in history to swim under 50 seconds for the 100m butterfly. The first, 0.13sec ahead of him, was Phelps.

That defeat to Biedermann will also come to be seen as one of the defining races of Phelps's career.

Losing did not make Phelps more vulnerable, it just made him stronger, quicker, and better. It might spur him all the way to London 2012 so he can show again and again and again that he is the best competitor on the planet. As far as I can see there is Phelps, Federer, Woods and daylight. No one else comes close.

Because in the pool, when the first man to the wall wins gold, and the crowd have been pulled to their feet and don't even know how loud they're screaming, when he needs to go faster than he has ever gone before to win, he "brings it". And Phelps "bringing it" is one of the finest things you will ever see

Sunday, 26 July 2009

13th FINA World Championships Rome '09


I guess being jobless that I am (more than a week now) I am an easy target for distractions and look what sort of distraction I found?!? ->

Well I had one eye on him since Beijing '08. I knew about his TV appearances and marijuana bong picture. However, I had too much going, what with, being snowed in, moving house, career issues and Paris plans among others, I had a lot on my hands. However, I always browse articles concerning him.

Of course I knew he was well on his way to this year's World Champs in Rome (a place I hope to be visiting really, really soon!). And I really want to watch the events especially the ones where he's competing.

I mean, come on, everyone loves a winner. I myself finds it exhilarating to read, watch and listen to winning stories. And to see it unfold right before my eyes (albeit just on a my laptop) to me, that will be a priviledge. It just lights up something inside me, aside from inspiring me and the trail of happy, giddy and adrenaline that ensue doing this I am really hooked! It is such a natural high...something you would like to keep experiencing, if not stay on forever.

Phelps' first event was the 400-m Men's Team Relay. He went into the water first and gave a very average performance using the 'windmill stroke', the good thing is his team mates stepped up to the plate and they finished with the gold anyways. It was a great viewing experience. I am once again hooked! I fully intend to see all the swimming events until the end of the meet - I hope to witness every victory and listen to the commentaries...and watch the crowd go wild. It's just great...had I known about this at an early age I would have struggled to be a sports person - maybe even an olympic athlete!

But let's not get carried away, I have my fun this way now, and somehow, it is enough to keep me going after my own goals and keep me working real hard to overcome my own life's monsters, best times, competition, and critics. It makes me persevere towards each milestone and determined to always step up my pace and performance.

In fact, I hereby declare myself not just a Phelps Phan, but a swimming enthusiast now. Really, I don't blame them for their passion for the sport, because if an expectator such as myself (who can't even swim to save her life) gets this kind of positive impact just by watching, what more if you're actually the one diving into the water with everyone cheering on!? What a sport!

1 out of 5 so far...

I did one of the 5 things I had set myself to do this year. And to me, that in itself was a feat.

Celebrating my birthday in a place where people expect you to 'be in a couple', really was a bit of a risk given my present status but it was nonetheless, brilliant.

The whole experience is going down on my books as the one of the best ever, as well as the best birthday ever - but in the end, it's not the actually being there that made the experience so high up there in the richter scale of life shaking experiences.

Coming into this year, I was really, really, excited - for reasons I didn't know at the time. I must admit, that the first part of this year was a real struggle for me.

Professionally, it went downhill so steeply it left me gasping for air. I went through a period of unexplained depression, but quickly after which, the reason was revealed. I came into a rocky patch and I believe I am still dealing with it currently. Being in Paris amidst this difficult times proves how much more out there is waiting to be discovered by myself. How much more I can do, if I want it bad enough and worked hard enough and prayed with all my heart.

Sorry to be emotional, but I've seen Eiffel Tower in movies/tv series countless of times. And I loved seeing it through the lens of some high tech camera...it paints a grand picture of a place that represents romance, wealth and luxury - the home town of Louis Vuitton. It was quite out of my reach, and it should have remained as such, had I not done my part.

It was an achievement to be there even for just a few days, to celebrate my birthday. It meant that I can do just about anything I set heart and soul to achieve. I've made a few more goals/targets after I came back from Paris. And I can't wait to see them finally coming into life. However, the trek towards that counts as much as actually being there and achieving them. It's always difficult to get things started and I believe I am on this phase right now. But hey, that is another topic altogether. For this one, I just would like to share something I learned through this all, there are no limits, anything is possible. We just need to find the right peices of the puzzle and get it to form the picture we want. Thank God for this gift - another year of life, of struggles, and achievements (i hope). ;p

Wednesday, 31 December 2008

looking back and looking forward

It has been the same every time the end of a year comes around, it somehow forces me to look back to what I had done as well as makes me anxious to what is yet to come. I've always been fond of countdowns - don't ask me why. And for this post I would do two - the Top 5 of my life changing events for 2008 and the Top 5 things that I will do for 2009.


2008 - my life's Top 5

#5. My first ever visit to London
A big girl in a big city, it was an experience to remember. Now that I live 20 minutes away, I can go and visit any time I want - and I am now more confident to tackle the underground and the crowd. However, I will never forget the very first time.

#4. Our BIG move to Kent
With all the difficulty that this brought me, and the humbling experiences that I endured that came with it, it definitely made me a better person. It was so hard that I don't even want to move ever again! Although I have fallen in love with Sevenoaks from when I first set foot here - living here is just absolutely amazing. I've never lived in the high end villages in Manila so I never expected nor even dreamt of actually living in one of UK's poshest towns. Mum's always saying that its soooo expensive here. And she's right, but I truly love the charm of the town. I enjoy living right at the High Street on top of a boutique. I enjoy sitting by our kitchen window and watch the robins. Oh, and the chipmunks busily gathering acorns ever so passionately as the autumn leaves fall and gather on the ground.

#3. Starting on a New Job - Twice this year
I've always enjoyed job searching, it always felt like finding the gold pin in a haysack. It always makes me feel efficient and organised somehow. Starting a new job can be an out of this world experience. Because I never know what to expect, I always feel a sense of forboding and anxiety. Although its good anxiety, coupled with excitement and glee. I've been blessed with 2 really meaningful jobs this year. I learned that working with charity may be something that I would like to do for the rest of my life.

#2. Accomplishing my Master's Certificate
No need to explain, although I decided not to pursue the diploma level of my masters, I feel that this is always going to be an open pathway for me, something that I can always choose to take if I ever face a crossroad in the future. I'll always see myself as an eager student, I love to learn. I know, when the right time comes I will walk around a campus again with books and research works in tow.

#1. Post Grad Visa
Gosh! The building of anxiety or whether or not I will be approved had been withering and exhausting. It led me to explore and pursue other possibilities such as coming and living in other countries. Come to think of it I was offered an English teaching job both in China and Siberia - can you believe it? I also was shortlisted for an interview in Maersk a global company based in Denmark!!! Although, in the end I guess it's fate that I stay in the UK - these things made me realise that the world really is my oyster if I choose it to be. Despite all the hardships in life and all the fears of devastation in this earth great things can be found when we search for it.


2008 had been a very fruitful year for me indeed, I feel that my perspective and outlook has changed. The top 5 life changing events that I've chosen was based on the impact that it made on my life and it's long term effect. Now that I am reminiscing on each experience, I realise that the hardships I encountered is commensurate to it's end result's impact on me in the end. I guess it's true that difficulty is all part of the chase. As chasing something gives me a sense of purpose and motivation. Having something to work tirelessly on, to hope for and to patiently wait for is the core of life. Without them, I'll definitely be lost.

I am very excited for the year 2009, despite the scare of recession and general feeling of depression throughout the world - I feel very positive about it. I feel that 2009 will be even better that 2008 had been for me. And since I've never really believed in new year's resolutions - because they end up being forgotten by me anyway, I find it better to start the year being organised and well planned. I have a lot of plans and hopes for this coming year. So here they are, the Top 5 things I would definitely aim to do this 2009.


2009 - My top TO DO list

#5. By the end of 2009 I should have at least £3000 in savings.
I'm setting my target amount to what I think is reasonable considering my other plans. The main point is that I do intend to save - contrary to what many people see me as (my parents at the forefront). It's true that I can be a shopaholic and a spending whim that happens all to often but I also know the importance of saving. Not for the things I want to spend on like travel and designer brands, but you know, saving for the sake of saving. I think that since I'm not getting any younger not is a good a time as any to commence on my lifesavings.

#4. I will celebrate my 1st year anniversary in my current job.
I've become a butterfly of sorts in my professional life - I've hopped from job to job without intending to. I've thought way back when I was younger that when I do start to work it would be with the same company and in the same profession for the entirety of my working life. Boy, was I ever wrong!
As much as I love job hunting, and all the excitement and hoorah of starting a new job and meeting new people each time, I've come to a point in my life wherein I would very much appreciate stability and a bit of certainty. I know, I know, nothing in life will ever be certain. But, I would really like to stay in my job long enough for me to actually see my hard work paying off, for my efforts to actually make a difference. And although a lot of forces in this world are out of my control, I will do everything in my power to stay in my current profession.

#3.Visit Theresa in DUBAI
This is one of those that I referred to in #5. Travel is expensive but this is something I hope to do in my life. To travel to as many places as possible - at least once for each one. The world has so many things to boast, it's beauty is so varied and diverse it would be a great shame not to see a bit of its wonderful places.
Aside from the obvious reason that I would really like to see my best friend who I haven't seen in ages, I would also like to know if there are future opportunities here. I am planning my visit by the end of Spring 2009. Perhaps April or May. And I really am so excited. I can't wait!


#2. See the view from the top of Eiffel Tower.
I've read about Paris from the romance novels I read tirelessly as a teen. And since I set foot in the UK I have felt the inclination to visit the capital of France. Being here made me feel that anything is possible. My co-workers before would tell me that all is possible if I'm determined enough - I believe them, and I am! I would be thrilled to see this happen. And I would really, really do what it takes to make this a reality.

#1. I will help Hydz come visit.
My parent's second daughter had finally voiced interest to see what it's like here. And I will support her all the way. Although this TO DO is not up to me entirely, as she can still change her mind, I just feel that whatever assistance I can offer to make this happen if she indeed wants to, I would definitely do. I would really like to have my sister here so she can see first hand what it's like to be here. It will be a life changing experience for her I'm sure.


In addition to these, being the shopaholic that I am, I decided to do a top 5 of things I would like to invest on. They aren't actually part of to do, because some of them (or maybe all of them, come to that!) may be just wishful thinking but I would love to be able to buy my top 5 most coveted items for 2009. Oh...these are in no particular order. To me they are all in one level of wanting... (wink, wink)

* new cellphone - a toss between an 8mp camera phone with touch screen Samsung and the reliability of Sony Ericsson 8mp slide unit.

* an LV luggage or city bag

* a laptop

* a nice watch

* jewelry set

haha! again....this is just a wishlist. Ain't I very wishful and aiming really high for 2009? like I've said, I have a really positive feeling about 2009. I have real high hopes and am uber excited!!!



Saturday, 30 August 2008

A little Something


just something I did when I had free time.
nothing huge.